Day 2: Bibobrah

Times, Seasons and Lessons in Between.

Sitting in the living room wondering what words to pen down to describe 2019. It’s November as I write this, and I would be honest, time has gone by so fast that writing this article is pushing me to reflect!

I still remember January 1st and all the ‘happy new year’ greetings.

For me 2019 started with a new year, a new job, in a new country. Here are some wisdom nuggets that I have learnt, and truth be told, still learning from.


1. Stay in your lane: I turned 30 this year and I entered it with peace. I am not bobo-ing you, for real. I am at peace where I am. Are there things that I would love to have achieved by now? Of course, yes like I used to say but I am learning on this journey with God that His timeline is the koko and not whatever projections I have made for myself. The urge to compare or feel sad still comes up but I remind myself that as long as I am living out what God wants me to do then I am good.

2. Don’t make monuments out of your mistakes: Made a mistake? Messed up? Heard God but disobeyed? Come here let us take a selfie. Ok, now it is time to roll up your sleeves, cap in hand, tail in between legs and sayFather I am sorry, What would you have me do?’ Many times,we disqualify ourselves because we think we are not good enough, not ready, not righteous and God is there waiting on you to just lean in. He knows the plans He has for us a.. many times, we don’t. He knows everything about us and yet He wants to use us. So, stop arguing with your keypad and get back to God.


3. Prayer: I’m in a prayer group with friends from my secondary school (go QC!) and I will be honest and say the fire we stir up in that place keeps me going. Community and fellowship are so important. Even when I don’t feel like I plug in and I know something is being deposited in me. God wants to hear from us more than we can imagine and I’m glad this helps me stay connected.

4. Move over feelings, hello Faith: I am a very emotional person. I’m always in my feelings. How I feel determines how I respond. ‘I don’t feel like’ used to be my mantra, my personal slogan. Afterall why would God give me feelings if I am not supposed to use them. Well brethren, feelings are good, but we need to know their place. Jesus did not exactly feel like dying on the crossb, but He knew the reason behind it, He saw the Father’s love and walked every step to Calvary. Willinglyc. Putting it close to home, I am learning to put my feelings aside and get the job done. This is one lesson I am still learning so check on me in 2020.

5. Don’t run away from God: Unfilled prayer requests? Unhappy? God was supposed to show up, where is He?? If you feel like this, don’t take the bait to seclude yourself and leave God out of your mess. Tell him how you feel (these feelings again!). Tell him you are upset, that you don’t feel like praying, that you expected X, Y,  and Z but nothing has happened. Talk to your father, be vulnerable with him.d

6. I perfected my Fried Rice: Hehehe, not every time serious, sometimes good food! I learnt most of my recipes after marriage (so take a chill pill if that’s what you’re stressing about) and my husband gracefully taught me all his famous family recipes. But this fried rice is a combination of my trial and error, Sisi Yemmie, Nancy Umeh and the angels on YouTube.

7. Invest in your Spirit: Every second of everyday, we are either making an investment or withdrawal. It may not seem like it but what we do with our time is either investing in our spirit or flesh. I invest in my spirit by reading my Bible, that book is fire and lighte and I have not scratched the half of it. Don’t look at me with spirikoko eyes, I can assure you that I am just like you. I love sleep, struggle with procrastination, snooze my alarm, have missed church but…. someone shout mercy! I know like I know my name that Jesus is the real deal and I must take steps to know him better. I do devotionals with my friends on YouVersion and that has helped me build a habit of getting scripture in. I listen to messages. I know I can do a lot more in that department,but I will continue to pick myself up no matter how many times I fall. You can do it too.

8. Recognise your season and live it up: I think 2019 was a silent season for me, a time to prepare, to hear, to be still and my people that is ok. Right now, my prayer is God, let me show people who you are but let them not remember the vessel because I know myself. The temptation to be doing something, to have my name in lights, to be known for my gift is real but I’m like God keep me in this training room till I am ready and even if it means no one knows my name, if you’re happy then I am good. There are seasons in a man’s life, don’t be caught unawares o my people.

There might be a time when you’re a housewife, looking for a job, single, waiting for a baby, ‘unsure of purpose’ etc etc. Here’s what you do, take that season and give it to God. He will help you make sense of it. So that is where I am.

Don’t waste your season asking, ‘why me’, why not you?We did not hear much about David before he was anointed as King. But he slayed a lion and a bearf. He was singing psalms to God with only sheep as his audience. You need this season of your life for the next.So, don’t fret friend, God’s gat you.

Shall we make it 10 points? What say ye?  

Let’s do things a little differently shall we?

Let me end this with a prayer,

I pray for you that you would live free because who the Son sets free is free indeedg. I pray that you get dissatisfied with status quo and hunger for more of God and that hunger will be satisfied. I pray you know Jesus and surrender your daily life to Him and as you do so you have peace and rest. I pray that limitations are lifted off your heart and mind. I declare sound health in mind and body. I declare that you won’t enter 2020 with soul ties. I declare that you find yourself but not in the way you expected to. You find yourself in Christ and you become a beauty to behold. I declare that no matter how long the shame has been, glory is bursting forth for you!

Thank you dear Adepero for this privilege. Thank you so much for reading.

If you made it to the end, well done you! You can connect with me via IG @bibobrah and my blog

Scripture references

a For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29.11 (NIV)

b “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done. Luke 22.42 (NIV)

cI am the good shepherd. The good shepherd gives His life for the sheep. John 10.11 (NKJV)

d Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.Hebrews 4.16 (NKJV)

eFor the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. Hebrews 4.12 (NKJV)

fBut David said to Saul, “Your servant used to keep his father’s sheep, and when a lion or a bear came and took a lamb out of the flock, 35 I went out after it and struck it, and delivered the lamb from its mouth; and when it arose against me, I caught it by its beard, and struck and killed it. 1 Samuel 17.34-35 (NKJV)

gTherefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.John 8.36 NKJV


Seasons Greetings from Perry’s Tots.

Subscribe to the blog via mail so you don’t miss any post.

You may also like

Join the conversation.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.